I have learnt a lot about goal setting over the years, and one of the best mottos to use when starting out with narrowing down your goals is to think small, and take one small step at a time.
Needing help isn’t a weakness. If you start feeling like you are doing too much or there is something you don’t know how to tackle, ask for help.
Perfection is unrealistic. Don’t aim for perfection or you will never reach your goal. Decide on what you can compromise on and run with that. For example you might want a beautiful front garden, but you don’t have the time, or the money to spend ensuring every weed is gone and the grass is always the perfect length. Maybe you can spare 2 hours on the weekend each week or 4 hours a fortnight, you will still have a stunning garden and you wont have aimed for perfection and failed.
Positive self talk and changing the story you tell yourself. So much of what we feel able to achieve comes down to the stories we tell ourselves every day. ‘I can’t cook, I always get it wrong’, ‘I’m terrible at sports’, ‘No one would like my stories so I wont share them’, ‘I’ll never go overseas, I could never afford it’ on and on the negative “truths” we tell ourselves. They are really just self limiting ideas and not true at all. Change the story you tell yourself, make changes and you’ll feel better for it. If your goal is to be better at sports, stop telling yourself you’re no good. You may not have super star skills now, but you can be better than you are now with practice. If you dream of travelling overseas and seeing the world but fear you will never have enough money, break out your budget and see where you can cut back on spending. Find other people that want to do the same trip and you can help share the costs rather than travelling alone. These are your goals, make them happen.
It’s ok for things to not be ok. Setbacks happen and unpredictable things occur. When you feel unhappy or sad, scared and alone, excited but hesitant, take a little time to feel what you need to feel, and then move on. The important thing is that you pick yourself back up and keep going when it feels too hard.
Plan rest time and time off. Even if your goals are fun things that you enjoy doing, its important to plan time away from these goals or you’re to tire of them or burn out. Its also a good way to evaluate your goals and make sure they are what you still want. Your goals and dreams can change with time, its important to know when to let go of an old goal to make room for a new one.